Deconstruction

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Do I Still Love Jesus? I Don’t Know How to Answer That Question

Inside: Thoughts on loving Jesus…and what does the word love even mean, anyway? It’s the day before Easter. Such an odd day for a deconstructing Christian. Coincidentally, someone on TikTok asked me yesterday if I loved Jesus. I responded with, “Hmmm, that’s a tough question. How much time do you have?” An odd answer, I …

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How Glorifying Missions Affects Children (Spoiler Alert: It’s Not Good)

Inside: When evangelical churches glorify missions and teach the great commission, they might not realize the message children are internalizing. And those messages? They’re so very far from healthy. Last week, a post popped up in my Facebook feed. The teen daughter of a dear friend shared the intense disappointment the past two years had …

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No, Matt Chandler, Deconstruction Isn’t Sexy. It’s Downright Traumatic.

Inside: A response to Matt Chandler’s statement about deconstruction, from someone who is actually deconstructing. Twelve years ago, I had a baby. Because I hate all things dieting, I decided to run a half-marathon to lose the baby weight. While logging mile after mile around the Charles River, I listened to hours and hours of …

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Tell Me What You Believe About Children, And I’ll Tell You What You Believe About God

Tell me. What do you believe about children? Because in my experience, what you believe about children reveals what you believe about God. And what you believe about God determines what you believe about children. In fact, it’s because I’m a parent that I started deconstructing in the first place. I heard how the church …

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Wondering How Faith Deconstruction Starts? I Can Only Tell You MY Story

Faith deconstruction isn’t something that happens overnight, and it most certainly isn’t something you want to start. You don’t wake up one day and say, “Hey, how about I question everything I once thought was certain? Everything that makes me feel like an insider? That gives me a sense of belonging in this crazy world …

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